All About The Quiet ADHD Club
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When it was confirmed, aged 48, that I’ve been living with ADHD all my life the very first sentence that popped into my head was:
“Where are all my quiet ADHD women?”
Because I didn’t see myself as a unicorn, neurospicy or neurosparkly (zero criticism if you do, all the colourful, glittery power to you), and I didn’t see myself reflected in the stereotypical image of a late-diagnosed ADHD woman.
That question popped into my head because I felt alone in my quiet, introverted, sensitive, atypical presentation of a late-discovered, midlife ADHD woman. But, as I learned long ago, I knew I couldn’t be alone, there had to be other quiet women just like me out there (which explains why I thought where are all my not the quiet ADHD women) but that they may also feel alone because, in our quiet way, we’re not shouting about it!
The birth of the Club
So, I started to write and talk about life as a quiet, midlife ADHD woman, I focused my coaching on supporting women in this position and now I’ve created this Quiet ADHD Club.
It's specifically the Quiet ADHD Club because we’re women who aren’t extroverted, we’re not the life and soul of the party and we shy away from attention. We’re often quiet, we’ve been called quiet all our lives, and we yearn to feel quiet on the inside. Time spent with lots of people, or in bright, loud, busy stimulating environments drains our battery and we need (and enjoy) time alone to recharge. While on the outside we aren’t bounding about with endless energy, inside our minds are running at hyper speed.
Who the Quiet ADHD Club is for
The Quiet ADHD Club is for you, the quiet, introverted, sensitive, empathetic woman who’s worn out from spending your life trying so hard to fit in, to not be too much and feeling like you’re not enough.
You procrastinate getting going on a task, even if it’s something you really want to do, and then struggle to see it through to completion.
You replay what you’ve said or done, wondering if you should have said or done that, what the other person thinks of you, and all the ways you could and should have done better.
You really hate getting things wrong or being bad at something, it’s so uncomfortable that you avoid trying it even though you might really want to do it.
You try so hard to make people happy, to please and never let anyone down (or be thought of as a disappointment), even though it’s so tiring and makes you feel resentful (which then makes you feel guilty). And yet you still feel like you’re letting down others, and yourself.
You’ve spent your life trying to be who you think you’re supposed to be, containing and criticising yourself, striving to do more, to be more, to keep up but feeling like you never quite manage it.
You’ve been told you’re too idealistic, too scattered in your thoughts, attention and interests, too quiet, too sensitive… and it all adds up to the long-standing feeling that you’ll never be enough.
You’re curious and interested in so many things, you’re caring and generous, thoughtful and keen to make other people’s lives better, the playful, creative, joyful you craves more space and freedom.
YOU are who I made the Quiet ADHD Club for.
The Quiet ADHD Club is for you if you suspect or realise you have ADHD, and perhaps autism or another neurodivergence, and you’re looking for a place where you can connect with other introverted, sensitive, empathetic women who also realised later in life their brain works differently.
You want to gain understanding about ADHD, ideas and support for how to work with your brain (rather than fight it) and connect with other women who just get it.
Welcome, you’re in the right place.
Come in, curl up and get comfy, you’re home.
Your Quiet ADHD Club membership
You can subscribe for free or become a monthly or annual member of the Club.
Free subscribers
You have limited access to the Club, getting a flavour for what it’s about with peeks at the paid Club resources, and occasional personal posts.
*Paid subscribers*
You get full access to EVERYTHING!
Weekly community accountability posts to support you to do what you want or need
Twice weekly 1-hour body-doubling sessions on Zoom – carrying out a task in the presence of others has been shown to make it easier to get the task done than trying alone, so this is where you can focus on a piece of work, a hobby, a household chore or life admin for example, in the company of our community on screen
Monthly Exploration deep dives on ADHD challenges such as procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism, overthinking, distraction, boundaries… I share explanation to better understand ADHD and yourself, as well as ideas and strategies you can put into practice
Including guest expert conversations in a field related to ADHD, such as nutrition, hormones, finances, decluttering…
Q&As where you can send in questions for me to answer
Personal posts about my own ADHD experience
Connection through paid subscribers writing comments on all the posts
BONUS resources eg. ebooks, printables, workshops as and when they’re created
Full membership with access to everything costs from as little as £2.75 a week, roughly the price of a takeaway cup of coffee.
*How to join*
Type your email address in the box below, press subscribe, and then pick your subscription plan (bonus: annual and founding members get extra treats sent in the post!)
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Everything in the Quiet ADHD Club is there to give you support, with zero pressure.
You’re welcome to join in as much or as little as you like. There’s no keeping up and you can’t fall behind.
The topic Explorations including expert conversations and the Q&As are stored in the Club archive for you to access any time you like as long as you’re a paying member of the Club.
All new posts are sent to your email inbox and you can change your notifications if you’d prefer to read, listen or watch posts in the Club on the Substack app or website.
You’re in control of your Club subscription so you can downgrade from paid to free any time, cancel or pause it whenever you like.
I cannot wait to welcome you in the Quiet ADHD Club.
If you have any questions feel free to email me or click the message button below.
*This space is for women and by that I mean anyone who identifies as a woman and who see themselves reflected in this space. I'm here for the late ADHD discovered, the introverted, sensitive, quietly overwhelmed, those who have spent their life trying to be who they thought they were supposed to be. If that’s you, you’re welcome here, just as you are.
I'm not super quiet but I'm not noisy (I hope) thanks for creating this.